Gender doesn’t have to be black or white. The idea that gender has to be binary i.e. either male or female is a social construct, just like the idea that periods are experienced merely by women and are a symbol of ‘womanhood’ is.
Consent, in and to any relation, should be a matter of right - when a girlfriend says it to her boyfriend, when a wife says it to her husband; indeed, when any woman says it to a man, it should be the last word.
I had my whole life planned out. Graduate, work for a couple of years, get an MBA, work as a consultant, travel far and wide, write, practice photography, work abroad for a few years...And it did not figure in a baby anytime soon.